Letting go of hatred, is not only a good thing but a necessary act of self compassion. Our spiritual, mental and physical health depends on it. When we can learn to forgive others, ourselves and accept what was, is, and is to come, we will find it within ourselves to let it go.
Acceptance does not mean we agree in any way with what has happened, but that we are not prepared to have a profoundly painful experience keep us from living our lives to its fullest, now.
Nobody ever said life was going to be easy but nobody’s also never said life was going to be this painful or difficult. We all must find our own way past these painful experiences. Allow them to change us to become more compassionate and loving people. Our loved ones who have passed on would not have wanted us to live a life of bitterness or self pity. The best way we honour them is to live our life to its fullest and with joy. That may require us to seek help from others and to be vulnerable. The losses we experience in our lifetime will come in variety of ways and levels of intensity. The more attached we are, the more it will hurt. Deep grief will be the cost we pay for caring as much as we do. Whether we allow these life situations to make us better or bitter, we ultimately get to choose. It’s ok to feel the pain of the experience, but it is also ok to breathe, accept it, and let it go…..”…the show must go on” -Queen