Relationships are There to Make Us Conscious

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Walter Aguilar

Coach

We believe that relationships are there to make us happy...

As human beings, we are wired to seek happiness and avoid pain. It’s a natural instinct that we all share. We believe that relationships are there to make us happy, to fulfill our needs, and to make us feel loved and appreciated. However, relationships are much more than that. Relationships are there to help us grow and evolve. They are there to teach us important life lessons and make us conscious of what we still need to work on.

As a COR.E Dynamics Performance Coach, I have worked with many clients who struggle with relationships. They come to me looking for answers and solutions to their relationship problems. They are often unhappy, frustrated, and confused about why their relationships are not working out the way they want them to. What I tell them is this – relationships are not there to make you happy or unhappy, but to make you conscious about what you still need to do the work on.

Let’s explore this concept further.

Relationships as a Mirror
One of the most important lessons that relationships teach us is that they are a mirror. What we see in others is often a reflection of ourselves. For example, if we are critical of our partner, it’s likely because we are critical of ourselves. If we are controlling, it’s because we feel out of control in some aspect of our
lives. If we are fearful, it’s because we are afraid of something within ourselves.

When we start to see relationships as a mirror, we can begin to use them as a tool for self-reflection and growth. We can ask ourselves, “What is this relationship trying to teach me about myself?” By doing so, we can identify our own flaws, insecurities, and areas of growth. We can then work on these areas and become a better version of ourselves.

Relationships as a Teacher
Relationships are also there to teach us important life lessons. We often learn more about ourselves and the world around us through our relationships than we do through any other means. Relationships teach us about communication, compromise, empathy, trust, and vulnerability. They teach us about what we value in life and what we are willing to tolerate.

When we approach relationships with an open mind and a willingness to learn, we can gain valuable insights that we can apply to other areas of our lives. For example, if we learn to communicate more effectively in our relationships, we can apply those skills to our work relationships and
friendships.

Relationships as a Catalyst for Growth
Finally, relationships are there to help us grow and evolve. They challenge us to step out of our comfort zones, to confront our fears and insecurities, and to become the best version of ourselves. When we face challenges in our relationships, we have an opportunity to grow and become stronger.

Relationships can also help us identify areas where we need to do the work. For example, if we struggle with trust issues in our relationships, it may be because we have trust issues in other areas of our lives as well. By working on these issues within the context of our relationships, we can improve our relationships and become better versions of ourselves.

The Importance of Doing the Work
While relationships can be a powerful tool for growth and self-awareness, it’s important to note that they don’t do the work for us. Relationships don’t magically make us happy or unhappy. They don’t solve our problems for us. We still need to do the work.

What does doing the work mean? It means taking responsibility for our own happiness and well-being. It means identifying our own flaws and insecurities and working to improve them. It means being open and honest with ourselves and our partners, communicating effectively, and being willing to compromise
and make changes.

When we do the work, we can create healthy and fulfilling relationships. We can learn to appreciate our partners for who they are.

In conclusion, relationships are not there to make us happy or unhappy, but to make us conscious of what we still need to do the work on. As a COR.E Performance Dynamics Coach, I have seen firsthand how relationships can be a powerful tool for growth and self-awareness. They can serve as a mirror, a teacher, and as a catalyst for growth. However, it’s important to note that relationships don’t do the work for us. We still need to take responsibility for our own happiness and well-being, identify our flaws and insecurities, and work to improve them. When we do the work, we can create healthy and fulfilling relationships and become the best version of ourselves.

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